Saw this post from a friend's blog and find it quite interesting...
(to my dear fren: forgive me for the shameless reposting :P)


10 surprises about single women....#1

You risk it all if you wait forever to reach out to a woman who interests you.

"Supposedly, men and women are on different timelines when it comes to making contact," says Mary L., 38. "Guys take their own sweet time to call us for a date and follow up afterward. But the older we get, the less tolerant we are of the waiting game. Guys, wait too long to get in touch -- or be inconsistent in how often you're in contact with us -- and we will lose interest. Patience has more of a shelf life than you realise."


My take on this? If a guy is that slow, chances are that he is probably not that interested anyway...

During cg 2 weeks ago, one of the discussion topics was on divorce. This is another passage on that, from Matthew 19...

Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"

"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"

Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."

The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry."

Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."

Sabbath...

Just this evening, I was contemplating whether to go for cell as I was feeling so tired. But I still went in the end. And after the welcome, I remembered asking God the purpose of being there. He told me to stay cos there was something in store.

The topic today was on the Sabbath. Yet somehow, the sharing led to our expectations of the cell group. The sharing was good and we felt that for the cell to grow, its members will need to be open with each other, though there is the risk of getting hurt. Other important factors would be mutual respect, trust and sensitivity to others' feelings, though that shouldn't stop us from correcting a fellow cell-mate if he/she is straying from God.

I think God is really amazing, isn't He?

Posted on 9 Oct, 12.55am

According to Dictionary.com, to dance is to "to move one's feet or body, or both, rhythmically in a pattern of steps, esp. to the accompaniment of music."

But dance is more than that isn't it? To me, it is the expression of the soul through movements, the physical demonstration of the human spirit.

I think the human body is made to dance. No matter how well we dance. Technique is important, but secondary in comparison to the passion.

And I believe what we dance for is important too. That's why it saddens me that certain genres of dance had reduced women, or men for that matter, to nothing more than sex objects. And sadder still that such dances are making their way to the church.

Keeping up with the times is one thing. But it shouldn't be an excuse.

Gatherings...

One of my female friends was telling me about the recent EFP gathering that she had organised, and which I didn't attend cos we had the night cycling event. No wait, it was supposed to be on the night of the night cycling but it was postponed to the following friday, which I can't attend as well since I had cell group on fridays.

Anyway, the attendance wasn't that good and she told me someone commented that usually only the people who are single and unattached would attend such gatherings. Guess that's true to a certain extent as well. Though it seemed a rather sweeping statement as well, since it implies that friends are not as important once you've found your special someone.

Oh well...

Take it easy...

Guess I'll just take it one step at a time...

Some time back, I read an article comparing male and female bosses. There was also a poll taken regarding which gender people usually prefer to be their boss. As expected, most prefer male bosses. However, having both male and female bosses, past and present, I felt that there is no difference. Maybe it's just a matter of perception after all. Whatever the case, it is usually the female bosses who would have to work doubly hard to prove their worth.

And I guess, this doesn't only apply to women who are bosses.

If you think I'm not up to it in the first place, then don't agree to let me take it up...




Remembered what my ACCA lecturer always told us. We are like plants and if we can't bloom, it could be it's the wrong soil. Should I change soil before I wither?

Chosen...

I guessed Kok Chun's sermon this morning on the above was a timely reminder. In the end, it isn't about being chosen by the world, but rather, to be chosen by the most important person there can be: Yahweh.

I'm sorry I had forgotten that. And ended up losing my focus. He's right. Our identity shouldn't be based on our career, family background, marital status, or anything else that is of the world. It is our identity in Christ that truly matters.

How then can I say that I lacked certain things when He is my Jehovah Jireh?

Posted on 12 Sept

Farewell...

The above pic probably came 10 months late...

About 10 months ago, I remembered being faced with mixed feelings as I was embarking on a new phase in my career.

No, it's not that I'm thinking of leaving now. It's just that a fellow colleague who will be leaving in 2 days brought back some memories of my own farewell 10 months ago.

I'm glad to have left with fond memories of that place...
Or maybe I only chose to remember the good parts...

Posted on 1 Sept, 11.30pm

Updates...

Ok, I'm not sure if there're people who still reads my blog, especially since my last update was more than 3 months ago. And it's already July!! But I shall not lament on how fast time is moving and so on...

Haven't been travelling much this year either, except to HK last month. Wondering if Japan is still on the list though..hmm...

Anyway, nothing much has been happening in my life now. I'm still working at the same place. More friends and colleagues are settling down as well. Guess it's just the phase of life that we're going through now.

Yesterday, Kia asked me what I look for in a man. I remembered that I've blogged about it a few years ago but yesterday I could only remember a few of the 'qualities'. Perhaps some things aren't that important anymore.


Sometimes I wish I knew what you're thinking about...

Posted on 3 July 2010, 10.50am

Man looks at the outward appearance...

but the Lord looks at the heart...


Last month, one of my girl friends told me about an experience she had with a guy she met on a website. It wasn't a good experience. To cut a long story short, it basically gave her the impression that looks are very important.

Well, man looks at the outward appearance. And by 'man', I'm referring to all mankind, not just the males. Is it in our nature to be attracted by beauty? Isn't that what caused the fall of mankind in the Garden of Eden?

The truth is: good-looking people have it easier. Most of the time anyway, unless they have really crappy personalities.

Feel free to disagree with me :)

Patience!!

It's been so long since I've blogged...did u missed me?? haha...

Anyway I think I've been eating so much nowadays. On Fri night, I went to this restaurant called Chilis at RWS with the girls. And just came back from a dinner cum farewell for last CG at Julven's house.

And I think I'm starting to run out of patience....

Praying....

It has been such a tiring day.

Something happen that made me wonder about people.

Why do people behave the way they do? But who am I to judge anyway?

Is it disappointment with the lack of concern?

I felt like telling her that it is not worth going to hell for the people who do not care anyway. Who needs their attention?

If it's not worth living for, it's much less worth dying for....

Ok, I'm more awake now...

Thanksgiving first.

I thank God for the past year and His provisions. As I've mentioned in my previous post, 2009 had seemed to be quite a slow year. But I guessed it did start off pretty well with the preparation for our Taiwan trip last April. Then somehow, along the way, things started going downhill and I was contemplating changing job. I remembered that during the church camp, I was still praying about it. And indeed, doors were opened as I managed to find a job related to finance. Thinking back on the process, it was nothing short of God's providence.

Prayers for 2010

Jobwise, I pray for fulfillment and contentment. Since I've just joined, there is still much to learn, but thankfully, I have understanding bosses and colleagues. Though there might be some changes in future, I pray that it'll all work out for the better.

For my family, I pray that we'll continue to grow closer to God and as a family too. That those who do not know Him yet will come to know him as well.

And personally, for a renewed direction in my life.