Forgiveness

Today, during our guitar lesson, the topic was on forgiveness. It is one of the most preached about topics and yet, one of the most difficult to practice as well.

Why do we find it so difficult to forgive? Is it because we feel that by holding grudges and not forgiving the person who had hurt us, we're actually hurting that person back as well? But in the end, it is us who will be hurt eventually.

No, life is too short to be angry with someone for too long. Besides, a person who truly cares for you will not hurt you intentionally either. And for someone who does not bother about you, he or she is not worth any of your tears, or bitterness for that matter.

Haha. But this is easier said than done.

Posted on 16 September 2008, Tuesday , 12.30 am

Frenemy??

I was randomly surfing the net, while waiting for my hair to dry, when I came across this interesting word. Frenemy.

Got this definition from Urban Dictionary

A person with whom you may have a lot of fun and/ or a lot in common, who also has a vile and random dark side. These relationships are worth doing a cost/benefit analysis on. Also, limiting relationships with frenemies to non-SO relationships is a must. Why? Because it’s ultimately all about them after all, and you will need to be in a position to get away from them for indefinite periods of time. Know too, that you will probably become their frenemy as well—because you won’t be able to keep from talking behind their back. If this happens, don‘t expect everyone to get it—some will wonder why this person enrages you so much and others will wonder what you see in them.

It is recommended for your own safety/sanity that you limit yourself to one frenemy at any given time in your life.

Do you have a frenemy in your midst?

Posted on 10 Sept 2008, Wed, 12.46am

Post no. 202

I've been wanting to blog about this since last week but somehow just didn't get down to it. Ok ok, I'm lazy :P

Anyway, I watched "Wall-E" with Kia last Sat at Marina Square. Had used the 1 for 1 offer by GV since it was my birthday month. It was quite a nice show. A feel-good movie with a happy ending. It started off by showing the consequences of pollution, though I felt that it was rather unrealistic as some of the buildings were still standing, intact, after 700 over years. Oh well, guess it's just an animation. But I like the quote made by the captain of the spaceship: "I don't just want to survive, I want to live." Haha, don't we all?

Contrast this with another movie I caught with Kia, Yuejia and Yuejia's friend 2 Saturdays ago, "12 Lotus". It had such a sad storyline. And throughout the show, I kept hoping that something good can happen to Lotus (the lead character). That perhaps there can be a happy ending for her. But it was not to be.

To digress a bit, I heard this song on Kia's blog sometime ago. She's learning to play it on the piano. Maybe I'll learn it too someday. A very big 'maybe'. Haha.

My Valentine

By Martina McBride

If there were no words

No way to speak

I would still hear you

If there were no tears

No way to feel inside

I'd still feel for you

And even if the sun refuse to shine

Even if romance ran out of rhyme

You would still have my heart

Until the end of time

You're all i need

My love, my valentine

All of my life I have been waiting for

All you give to me

You've opened my eyes

And showed me how to love unselfishly

I've dreamed of this a thousand times before

In my dreams i couldnt love you more

I will give you my heart

Until the end of time

You're all i need

My love, my valentine

Posted on 7 September 2008, Sunday, 6p.m.

After the dinner...

I had promised to update on the dinner tonight. It was held at the Raffles Convention Centre ballroom. Quite a grand affair I guess, since the PM was the guest of honour.

The food was pretty good, with some lobster dish as the appetizer. Maybe I'll upload a picture of it once I figure out how to do so from my handphone. Didn't really take many pictures actually as my hp camera has such a low resolution. Maybe someone will send me some pictures later.

But honestly, no matter how good the food was, it just couldn't measure up to the dinner with Ting and SJ at Marche last Wednesday. Because at the end of it all, it really is the company that matters.

Posted on 26 Aug 2008, Tuesday, 11PM

Back!

I'm back! Haha...

Ya, decided to open my blog again after all due to the following reasons:

1. After 'violent' protests from some of my friends (ok, maybe not really violent), and Kia even said that I was anti-social. Bleah =P
2. It is much too troublesome for my friends to have to log in just to read my blog. And yes, I admit I was lazy to send the email too...
3. Initially, I closed it as I was thinking of changing the blogskin, but decided against it in the end as I still like the current one. And I was lazy.

Anyway, I don't think I'll re-activate my Facebook account anytime soon. I think I've already wasted too much time on it, and it is definitely something I can do without. To Kia: I know I did rant quite a bit about Facebook when I first started on it, but people change =)

Centennial dinner tomorrow. Wonder how it'll turn out. Watch out for updates tomorrow night, if any!

Posted on Monday, 25 Aug 2005, 11.26pm

I think...

that there must be flowers in heaven...

Run...run...run...

Someone told me that my blog is getting too emo...haha...so I shall blog about something happier today.

Went for the Shape run with the girls today. Quite fun I guess, though I had walk almost half of the 5km. And ended up with 2 bruised big toes as I stupidly forgot to cut my toe nails.

Well, besides the obvious health benefits, I find that a run can be rather therapeutic too. Next up, GE Women 10K!

Posted on 20 July 2008, 11.30pm

What am I good at? Can I not bother about anything anymore?

Finding Joy...

The church organised a floral workshop yesterday. They had invited an instructor from a floral training school to demonstrate some of the techniques used in floral arrangement. Well, perhaps 'techniques' wasn't the right word to use since he did not really emphasise much on the technical aspects.

He touched on something else instead. He said that in floral arrangement, we should not always be too focused on the little things that we lose out on the big picture altogether. And that we should never get upset over the conditions of the flowers we have either. Simply because we cannot always control the kind of flowers we get. There are times when the flowers can be really beautiful and other times when they just look lackluster.

I guess there had been times when I was too concerned about the condition of the flowers or too focused on the design. In the end, I had somehow forgotten the pleasure that I used to get from simply arranging the flowers. In the midst of all the control, we missed out on something more important. The joy that flowers can bring us. And it is this joy that will be reflected in our arrangements as well.

Is this the same with life too? Do we sometimes get so upset with trivial matters that we allow them to take away our joy in living?

Maybe I'll put up some pics in my Facebook later...=P

Posted on 22 June, 11pm

Dwelling...

For those who didn't know, I just came back from a camp organised by Kia's church. It was held at Sofitel Palm resort in JB from 8 - 11 June.

The theme was on His dwelling place. And as the name suggests, there was quite a bit of free time for us to just slack around. There was also a silent meditation session every morning at 7.30 am, though we (me and my 2 roomies) were quite ashamed to have only made it for 1 session out of 3. I think the guys beat us to it by attending all 3 sessions.

On the final night, the speakers decided to pray for each of us individually. Well actually, they prayed for the married couples first before getting round to us singles.

When they prayed for me, one of the speakers mentioned Moses and his staff. I didn't understand it. Or maybe a part of me just didn't want to...

Posted on 13 June, 11.30 pm